Fem tops aren’t just for fall – they’re forever

Until we stop equating topping (and the strap) with masculinity, we keep perpetuating gender stereotypes.

Words by Megan Wallace

As I write this, I’m officially Home for the Holidays™. Not only have I already sent my Christmas cards, but I’ve bought and wrapped my family’s gifts. That’s all to say that we’ve long surpassed the autumn months (or as our American friends would say, “fall”) and the season of Fem Top Fall is officially behind us. Or is it? Will it ever be? 

ICYMI: Fem Top Fall may have first been coined in 2023, but it came to dominate queer TikTok discourse in 2024. Its aims? To celebrate fem tops: queer men and non-binary people with more feminine gender expression, but who also happen to be tops. While the term was initially aimed towards the gay community, it resonated with a multitude of queer identities – sapphics, in particular.